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6/2/2022

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Pick-up Lessons

As a self-confessed old-head, one of the things that disappoints me the most about the state of youth sports is the loss of free play. It seems that virtually everything nowadays is organized. And, while that may provide a structure that fits nicely into our schedule and ideals, it often misses on other critical values that we frequently find absent in young adults … or old adults.

From the age of twelve to fifteen, Sunday afternoons meant pick-up tackle football games with my older brother. There was nothing I looked forward to more during that time than those games and the rides to and from them with Johnny. 

I learned quickly that toughness was a required trait. It wasn’t optional or desired, it was required. It was never talked about, but it was clearly understood. With a gravel driveway as the fifty yard line, there were certainly a fair share of injuries. What I learned very quickly is that the injury didn’t matter, how you reacted to the injury however would etch your future in stone.

If a player suffered a minor injury, but acted as if it was catastrophic, they immediately relegated themselves to the last pick - or not even being picked. Forgiveness would eventually set in and allow them to come back and play again … in a few weeks, not a few minutes. Coming back into the game after faining an injury was met with immediate disgust and ridicule that no one ever attempted to do it more than once. The message was very clear: if you can play, you play; if you can’t, you don’t. The injury was irrelevant after the fact. 

Think FIFA soccer or NBA basketball. They wouldn’t have been able to play on Sundays with us.

Why Should We Care?
Win or go home used to be a real thing. Now it only occurs at the end of a long weekend of games after everyone has already played numerous times. Highlight videos have been bought and Tweets have been posted, so what’s really left? Does it really matter if you win or not?

When you play legit pick-up, against real competition, that is not the mindset. First of all, there are no cameras or tweets. The highlights are limited to the best kind - the ones that are embedded in our mind and exaggerated to others on the car ride home. 

From my junior year of high school until I was three to four years out of college, my summer included regular pick-up basketball games at Thomas Cloud Park in Huber Heights and on the University of Dayton’s campus. Those games, often with older players, taught me quickly that winning was the only thing that mattered in pick-up basketball.

Winners stay. If you lose, it could be hours before you got the chance to play again - and that’s if you were lucky enough to get picked up by another team. I was never that lucky. So, I had to find ways to help my team win. It’s amazing how quickly players accepted their roles and played to their strengths when the pressures of leaving the court for an extended time were constantly staring you in the face. 

The lessons abounded. Humility was accepted or the need for it realized quickly. Playing hard was not optional. Unselfishness was demanded. You willingly sacrificed for the team. You spoke honestly with teammates for the good of the team. You owned your mistakes. You enjoyed the pureness of the struggle and the honesty of the results.

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Here are a few ideas to keep in mind that we have to be intentional with now that so much free play has been removed from the maturation process of our upcoming leaders. These still must be learned, one way or the other.

  • Winners Win 
    • Not always, but a lot. There are people that win more than others. That’s not a coincidence. They do things, usually small things, that lead to the desired results. Winners frame adversity differently and hold themselves to standards that others don’t recognize or comprehend. These people were easy to spot in pick-up games, they were always on the court. 

  • It Sucks to Suck
    • Losing isn’t fun. In pick-up, it’s worse. It means you don’t have the opportunity to play again for a long time. The beauty is in the absence of a shortcut. You have to get better. That’s it. Get better - become a better player, more reliable, play harder … you can’t cheat the game, or life. The work must be done.

  • Put Up or Shut Up
    • Pick-up basketball has a lot of jawing and banter deeply woven into it. Most take it for what it is, nonsense. What it never does is replace the substance of your game. At some point, regardless of all the talk, you have to check up and play ball. That’s the moment of truth. No amount of witty comments can replace your game.

I’ve commented before that I think I could make fail-proof hirings if I could just play a little pick-up basketball with each potential employee. It’s much more difficult to give a textbook answer in the heat of a pick-n-roll than it is in a comfy office chair.

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5/26/2022

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The Turtle Always Wins

“Speed kills” is a common saying in sport. Fans, scouts, and coaches will reference it in recruiting or as justification for why one athlete, or team, outperforms another. Quickness, athleticism, or ‘speed’ have a significant impact on performance. 

In the short term, they’re right - the hare will win.
But, in the long term, that’s not the case. In the long term, the turtle always wins.

Regardless of society’s compulsion for honoring number one, the first, or the fastest; the reality doesn’t change. Patience and persistence are going to win out.

Why not recognize it and operate as if we know it now?

Why Should We Care?
When we know the turtle wins, our perspective is shifted.

The persistent failure becomes the superstar.
The young, complacent hot shot becomes the underachiever.

The faithful worker focused on the mundane masters the essentials.
The flippant genius is bored by the very skills that hold his future success.

As leaders, we must always be aware of what we are rewarding. The behaviors we promote within our team establishes the culture of our group. It’s culture that kills, not speed.

How we see success is also a significant factor on what we view as worthy of praise. The more bent we are towards achieving outcomes, the more likely we are to value speed over persistence. The faster we can get the result we want, regardless of what is compromised, makes the most sense, right?

A process focus is naturally accompanied by an expectation, and acceptance of, patience. Of course there is a desire for the instant gratification, the sugar rush, of the immediate result. However, the process focused mind realizes any success, or failure, is simply a by-product of the process chosen.

Furthermore, a seemingly good result doesn’t always equate to the best process anymore than a seemingly bad result equates to a poor process. Both are yet to be seen, meaning there is more work to do either way.

Turtles believe in, and do, the work.

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This is a pretty easy one to understand and even acknowledge, but very difficult to remember in the moment. Here are a few ideas for bringing the patient persistence of the turtle to the forefront.

  • Honor Progress 
    • Whether it is resulting in the desired outcome or not, honor progress towards the goal. Afterall, slow progress is still progress. Build systems to recognize and encourage small progress as well as major progress. The only way to run a marathon is one step at a time - none more important than the other. 

  • Water the Roots
    • Typically the habits and behaviors that allow great things to happen are simple, mundane, and down right boring. These roots provide the foundation for anything meaningful to be built. Make these a priority. These are the secret sauce that ultimately leads to the success of the turtle. Faithfulness to the simple, basic foundational tasks isn’t optional.

  • Praise Persistence
    • Help the people you lead embrace failure and struggle. It could be a failure board or a conversation in the break room, but allow the people you lead to share their mistakes. And, more importantly, you share yours. Failures are viewed as setbacks by those who lack understanding of the race the turtle is running. The turtle knows it’s the only way to get to where he’s going.

Appreciating the way of the turtle is important for us as individuals and organizations alike. Both parties like to cite their need for immediate results as their excuse for a lack of emphasis on the long game. It’s a lame excuse, stop using it. Give the turtle the respect it deserves.

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5/19/2022

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The 'Good Enough' Leader

I’ve written before on one of my high school coach’s common moniquers: 

“Ever notice how good enough, never is?”

​I’m sticking with that in regards to our personal pursuit of excellence. If it’s about holding ourselves accountable, good enough doesn’t cut it. If it’s about living to our personal values, good enough doesn’t cut it. If it’s about how we treat others, good enough doesn’t cut it.


But a place where good enough is just right is in leadership.

We’ve developed, fallen may be a better word for it, into a society that attempts to protect those in our care from the imminent failures coming our way rather than preparing them to deal with it. We swoop in to save the day only to make the coming days that much harder.

Let’s think of it from a parenting standpoint. We have the two extremes, which I would argue make up the majority of the cases: the helicopter and the absent.

Helicopter parents are always hovering. They view it as their personal responsibility to be sure their child goes through life free of disappointment and failure. They are constantly involved and running to the rescue at the first sign of perceived struggle. They’re annoying at best, meddling at worst. I’m sure you know plenty of parents from this group.

The absent parent is just that, not there. They provide no structure, or guidance, for their child and have released themselves of the responsibility to nurture this young person into an adult that can positively contribute to society. They’re nowhere to be found when trouble sets in. 

Why Should We Care?
From the outside it seems the absent parent is far worse than the helicopter parent, but it’s not the case. Both are equally damaging.

The parent that has it figured out is the good enough parent.

A good enough parent is going to be at the playground to see their child fall down, but resist the urge to run in and save the day. They allow their child to fall and deal with it. That’s good enough.

A good enough parent is going to be present and supportive of their child as they complaining about a teacher or coach that they don’t agree with, but resist the urge to intervene and overpower the relationship. They allow their child to struggle and deal with it. That’s good enough.

The exact same scenarios play themselves out in the leadership world. 

The helicopter leader clips the wings of team members, robbing them of the opportunity to stretch themselves by swinging for the fences. These leaders quickly find themselves with a team full of in-the-box thinkers afraid of putting themselves out there or risking failure.

The absent leader is climbing the ladder and compromising the life-blood of leadership, the relationships, for another ring on the ladder. They are either so focused on themselves that they literally aren’t available to their team or they are so focused on societal success that their team doesn’t matter to them. 

Similar to parenting, I believe these two descriptions also encapsulate the majority of leaders.

The good enough leader provides team members with what they need, not what they want. They allow the vagueness of their direction to be an asset rather than a hindrance. The good enough leader is there, but no one notices him. He prompts, suggests, and guides those he leads towards the vision of the team.

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There is nothing easy about being a good enough leader. Though it may seem like less work, it’s clearly a significant challenge considering how many people accept its effectiveness but fail to act on its execution. Here are a few thoughts that might help you with the process.

  • Play the Infinite Game 
    • The ‘Infinite Game’ phrase was coined by Simon Sinek, but I was reminded of it recently as I was reading Ryan Hawk’s book “The Pursuit of Excellence”. Today is important, but not even remotely close to the rest of our lives. Live in such a way that you don’t just win today, but you are establishing habits and mindsets that help you win the rest of your life.

  • Gain Self-Awareness
    • We are all incredibly bad at evaluating ourselves in anything. In order to gain a better perspective on yourself, ask others. Ask those you lead which type of leader you are. On a continuum are you more of a helicopter leader or an absent leader? Follow up with an additional question to get more details on how you can improve. Make it anonymous if you fear they will hold back. (this should be a red flag that your trust with your team still has plenty of room to grow)

  • Share Your Favorite Scar Story
    • Literally, or figuratively, in regards to the scar, but talking about your mistakes and failures helps those you lead realize that you’ve gone an entire season without a hit in Little League (true story) or that you’ve given a presentation that has completely flopped (also true). By going first you are communicating that it’s ok, we mess up, we fail, go for it again. That’s what good enough leaders do.

I think we are guilty of over-parenting, over-coaching, and over-teaching. Some, actually most, things are best when we figure them out ourselves. We are at our best, and our teams are at their best, when we strike the balance - when we’re good enough.

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5/12/2022

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The Talent Cliff

It seems like certain people were dropped there with a special gift. Ordained by God to simply be naturally gifted as something. There are far too many examples to dispute the fact that some people are born with enhanced skills others aren’t. This, of course, isn’t to say we all can’t improve - not trying to dispute Carol Dweck and her growth mindset research by any means. 

However, clearly some people are naturally gifted in singing, for example, as compared to someone else. A few of these people recognize this talent and invest great amounts of work in it. Their early success fuels their passion for their skill which provides enough intrinsic motivation to inspire them to pass through challenges and obstacles with no regard, as if they are simply part of the process.

And, in this process these few are likely recognized as much for their work and commitment as they are for their talent. Thus, they draw an additional reward in the form of admiration for the process they have chosen, not simply the innate talent they began with. 

Then you have the gifted group that recognize their gift, but allow their talent to diminish their perceived need for work. They begin believing their talent, not their work, is the driving force. And, rightly so based on the feedback they receive from others. 

These people are often praised and elevated because of their talent. Rather than the admiration being for the process they embrace it’s simply for the talent they possess. This rings empty to them because deep down they know they did little to cultivate what they were blessed with.

Why Should We Care?
As leaders, this is significant because these people are often hard to tell apart but their impact on our team and culture won’t be. 

As Inky Johnson puts it, “Character supersedes talent … don’t allow your talent to take you where your character can’t sustain you.”

Talent leads us to a cliff that requires a plan. Character is the foundation of that plan. 
I realize you’re probably reading that, agreeing with it and saying that makes sense.

Then why don’t we honor it?

We see it over and over - from professional sports to youth sports, from corporate America to the working class … skill and talent is valued above character. 

We make these compromises with one hope in mind: they’re cliff is too far away. We know they’re headed straight for a cliff and we know they have not been equipped with a plan, yet too often we allow them to proceed. 

We’ll complain about how they’re entitled and how they ‘don’t get it’. We’ll make excuses for their attitude and allow them to skate by on threats. Our unwillingness to hold the talented accountable isn’t their problem, it's ours. 

Ignoring it is worse than enabling it.
We might as well be pushing them off the cliff ourselves.

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As the talented ones we are entrusted with make their way towards the cliff, here are a few thoughts on helping them develop a plan for the crossroads of their talent and their character.

  • Compliment the Process 
    • It’s always “you worked so hard to prepare and really went for it in your presentation”, not “you are so smart and smooth with your delivery”. The focus is always on the process, not on the product. The question is, what made the product excellent? Compliment that.

  • Build Character
    • It’s something that can always be addressed - success or failure. Talk about it, interview for it, lift up the standard-bearers in different situations, praise in public and criticize in private. Create opportunities to proactively talk about matters of character. Focus on building better people and the better employee part will take care of itself.

  • Hold the Standard
    • This isn’t one you can compromise if you are trying to lead teams of excellence. Your team knows if you are sacrificing your values and standards for talent. The concern always arises, what if they quit or leave? Yea, what if … Maybe they will. And, maybe their next stop will be able to get through to them. What you know is accepting them as they are isn’t good for them or your team. It’s only good for your desire to stay comfortable.

The call is not to the talented, or gifted, though they ultimately hold the decision. The call is to the leaders. Teach them, coach them, and hold them accountable. If not for your benefit, for theirs. 

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5/5/2022

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Compete Because

I’ve spent the last eight years worth of summers in basketball gyms all across the country. I’ve had the opportunity to watch a lot of incredibly talented players throughout that time. The things kids can do now in third or fourth grade on the basketball court weren’t common for seventh or eighth graders just five years ago. Their skill and talent is off the charts.

But, I wouldn’t want 98% of them on my team.
Why? They don’t know how to compete.

That’s right, competing is a learned skill. Just like running or jumping, some are bent more towards competition than others. However, I will always be of the belief that we all can continue to improve our ability to compete. 

The problem isn’t a lack of competition. 
It’s the unwillingness to express the importance of competing.

Why Should We Care?
The ‘everyone gets a ribbon’ and ‘no one loses’ movements may help our confidence - though I would argue it’s false confidence - but it’s also crippling the desire for people to compete.

Kids and adults alike will tap out at the first sign of challenge, struggle, or God-forbid failure. We continue to hold on to the false pretense that losing or failing is bad. As if it damages our psyche and paralyzes our motivation to continue moving forward. 

Competing places us directly in the crosshairs. When we compete, there is a chance we fail. Without that chance, it’s not a competition. Likewise, competition calls for a winner. We can’t eliminate the potential for a loss while maintaining the possibility for a win. 

Our societal judgment of success as ‘good’ and failure as ‘bad’ is leading us to an apathetic approach to competition. And, we know it to not be true at all … yet we continue. We keep highlighting it, writing about it in the papers, and covering it on the tv. We glorify success while making failure the villain.

Those that truly compete don’t follow the rules. They are preparing then testing, preparing then testing, preparing then testing. The result still holds feelings of excitement or disappointment, but only in the moment. They are not ruled by their emotions connected to the perceived good or bad. They are experimenters, constantly challenging their current state, free from the entitlement of success or the embarrassment of failure.

It’s a beautiful thing.

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Helping those we lead become better competitors is just as much within our responsibilities as any other skill would be. A healthy relationship with competition is the goal, not an elimination of it.

  • Together is Better
    • I can’t be tough alone … and neither can you. In virtually every competition opportunity you either have others relying on you to do your job or others have poured into you to give you the opportunity you have. In both cases, you’re not alone so it’s not about you. It’s about us. Solid country song recommendation while - Better Together by Luke Combs.

  • Recognize It In Others
    • There is a good chance no one has told the person you see it in that they are a great competitor. We are much better at acknowledging physical gifts and talents than we are at appreciating ones that are largely mental. Competing is certainly the latter. When you see it, let them know you recognize it. And while we’re on it, surround yourself with some people that consistently compete. That’s a tough ask though. There aren’t that many of them.

  • Detach From Man’s Approval
    • I feel like I list this as an action item every other week but it has such a powerful impact on so many aspects of life. Society isn’t changing the success/good and failure/bad labeling any time soon so we need to change. Dismiss the urge to worry about what others might think and just go for it. You’ll never be disappointed by the decision to put your best into an effort.

I love to watch people that compete, freely and ferociously. Their experimental mindset is inspiring and challenges me to continue competing in my life. They don’t need a prize or pat on the back. They just compete because it’s who they are. They compete because.

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4/28/2022

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Suppressing Success

Call it humility if you want. Though it’s certainly a part of it, I don’t think it completely explains it.
Call it drive maybe. The desire to be your very best is a piece, but clearly not the whole thing.

About eight years ago I’m driving home from a basketball game with my son Gabe, who was about nine years old at the time. It was about 10:30pm and my phone rings, it’s Joey Weingartner, the starting point guard for our team. 

Joey’s call was direct and to the point: “What’s up Coach? What time will the gym be open in the morning?”

Joey wanting to be in the gym in the morning wasn’t a surprise. Afterall, he is the founding father of our basketball Breakfast Club - a group of around twenty players that arrive at 6am every morning before school to work on their game. When the Breakfast Club started we had one, Joey.

In any case, his question made me smile. Players usually want to get back into the gym when they didn’t play well. That wasn’t the case on that night. Joey had been great. He controlled the game as the point guard and led us to a win over our local rival with 28 points. 

As a coach’s son, you have a lot of big brothers. Joey was definitely one of the guys Gabe always looked up to. Before I could hang up, Gabe hit me with questions. “Was that Joey? What’d he want?”

I told him it was Joey and what he wanted. Gabe’s response was well accepted in society: 
“Why? He had 28 tonight.” I said, “Maybe that’s why.”

I wasn’t sure if Gabe was old enough to understand, he did. (see last week’s post - The Overheard)

Joey wanted to get back in the gym after success. 
That marks a transition to a different, higher level.

Why Should We Care?
Society defines success by the outcomes we achieve - money, job titles, wins, cars, awards, etc. Society also tells us that when we are receiving the outcomes of success, progress isn’t as important. We have what we want, we know what we’re doing, why would change still be needed?
If excellence is really the pursuit, then there is a desperate need to suppress success - specifically, societal success - in order to see what really matters: The process that led you there.

Both those pursuing success and those pursuing excellence travel along the same narrow path for a while. There simply aren’t that many options if you want to be really, really good at something.

Excellence, however, requires a longer, never-ending track on a trail only you can see. Success is only available to the few, while excellence is there for anyone willing to create their path.

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The suppression of success is a little delicate. We want to celebrate our small victories without becoming complacent. We want to enjoy the moment without becoming lost in it. Here are a few ideas to help you suppress success while appreciating the process.

  • AARs 
    • After Action Reviews is a process stolen from the military that helps you reflect accurately on an event, regardless of the outcome. If it went well, you will still find things that could have been better. Likewise, if it went poorly, you can typically find things that went well. Don’t dismiss the good in the bad or the bad in the good too quickly. Often that is where your best insight lies.
 
  • Stick to the Standard
    • Fight the urge to base success on the outcome. Instead, focus on the standard. Whether or not the standard was met is a better indication of our progress and the eventual realization of our goals. The process drives the standard and is within our control. The process provides the opportunity to celebrate growth, not just the outcome. By chasing a standard, we also begin to realize we will never really reach it, debunking the ideal of success. We soon realize that it’s progress and growth that we truly aspire to anyway.
 
  • Maybe So
    • There is an old Chinese parable in which a farmer is constantly told the things happening to him are either good or bad. The farmer's response is always, “Maybe so.” The point is that we never really know if something is good or bad. Often a failure that seemed so awful at the time turns out to be a blessing and a success that seemed so great turns out to be a nightmare. We’re better served to dismiss judgment and just allow them to simply be happenings - neither good or bad.

For Joey, the 28 points wasn’t the success nor was the win. His success was found in the process he chose to embrace, not the outcome. By identifying his process as his success he knows exactly where to return after scoring 28 points or 2 points, after winning by 1 or losing by 20.

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4/21/2022

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The Overheard

A good friend of mine shared a quote from CS Lewis with me recently that very much applies to leadership, coaching, and parenting:
    “The gospel will not be heard. It must be overheard.”

We know this to be true for ourselves. We would much rather test advice given to a friend than follow the directive that is meant solely for us. Afterall, that places us in a position of weakness, of following and obeying. We’re too proud to just simply take orders. Often we would simply rather continue down the wrong path than be corrected directly.

However, if we hear good advice meant for another, we are much more likely to act on that for one simple reason: we maintain control. Rather than being subordinate, we are now choosing to follow this new advice. We can take the time to consider it, without the pressure of an order. This consideration goes a long way in not only accepting the idea, but continuing it in the future.

Why Should We Care?
As a parent, we are probably more aware of this reality. How many times have we watched a toddler mimic exactly what a parent or sibling has done? No one told them to do it, they just ‘overheard’ it and acted on it. 

This occurs in the workplace far more than we would like to admit. The struggle for us, of course, is that what is overheard is often counter to our leadership efforts. Maybe we are complaining or defending a decision we made or maybe we’re attempting to justify a bold move we took that others are questioning. Regardless, the conversations others overhear are not typically beneficial to our leadership impact. 

To be clear, I’m referring to ‘overheard’ as something we do with our ears and our eyes. The things we have watched other leaders do when they didn’t know we were watching are some of the most important leadership lessons we have ever learned. I ‘overheard’ my dad get up for work everyday - sick, hurt, sad - didn’t matter. He got up and went to work. He didn’t complain. That was significant in shaping my life and me into the person I want to be. He never told me how important it was to be on time and dependable, he just did it. I ‘overheard’ his actions. That was more valuable to me than one hundred lectures on the subject. 

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Here are a few areas to consider when reflecting on what those that overhear you are hearing.

  • Do you blame, complain, or defend? 
    • If so, stop saying it out loud. Keep it between you and your journal. First of all, no one wants to hear it. Even your close friends … they’re just being nice. Stop puking on them. Second of all, it diminishes the potential of your impact and you have full control over it.

  • Do you set or hold the standards?
    • This is speaking to your actions. Are you on time, prepared, positive? If it’s an expectation and you’re not doing it, you don’t need to wonder if the people you’re leading know or not … they do. Hold the standard or remove it.

  • Do you give commands or present options?
    • Some things require directives, I understand that. But, most things do not. Whenever possible, allow those you lead to have a choice in the decision. It changes their commitment, willingness to conquer challenges, and feeling of accomplishment when the job is done. Offering choices when possible is a creative way to inject the benefits of being ‘overheard’ into any situation.

So, what do people overhear you saying? What do they see you doing? If we truly value our impact we will pay much more attention to what others ‘overhear’ us saying and doing with the understanding that this may be the most impactful aspect of our leadership footprint.

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4/14/2022

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We Work

Work is humility.
It’s one of the most basic ways we can express that we’re not as good as we need to be. 

Consider the opposite. 
A lack of work very clearly communicates a sense of entitlement or complacency. One thing a lack of work is never mistaken for is humility.

And … if you haven’t noticed, there is a significant difference in what people consider “hard work”. The mere difference in this standard is fascinating. How can one person grind out six hours of deeply focused work and consider it a normal day, while another person drifts through surface level duties and views it as hard work? Or one person considers a single hour long workout “hard work” while another person will do that three times in a single day and view it as normal.

I have some ideas on the reasons behind this disparity, but we all know the difference this performance leads to. And, it’s significant.

Why Should We Care?
As a leader, it’s unrealistic to expect those we lead to work harder than us. Not that it won’t happen from time to time, but it should never be the expectation. While this may look like overtime and long hours on occasion, that is not the standard we should be striving towards.

Presence is the standard - being where we are, when we’re there. Maintaining mindfulness and attention to the current task at hand has become a superpower for those that have mastered it.

Our purpose for the work we are doing is significant as well. The stronger the purpose, the less we view time as a constraint to meet. It’s also precisely why our purpose should be supported by values that we hold close and be applicable to all aspects of our life. 

One set of values at work and another set of values at home doesn’t function well. 
You have values. That’s it. There is no work you and home you. Your values are your values.

This distinction is important because our values form our standards. Our standards decide how we define “hard work” if we are living in alignment. Low standards for “hard work” can typically be connected to a lack of purpose, lack of core values/beliefs, or a disconnect between who we are and who we say we want to be.

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Work is also revealing. It accurately reflects several important aspects of our personality and standards. Here are a few areas our work serves as our voice.

  • Our Aspirations 
    • Your work must match your aspirations. Must, or you’re lying to yourself. It’s important that we take the time to figure out what reaching our aspirations actually requires of us. Our work differentiates us from others because of our aspirations. It doesn’t mean we are better or worse, but it absolutely makes us different.

  • Our Standards
    • What are you willing to accept from yourself? This question determines our personal standards. How you will work is one of your standards. People that have a high standard for work, are going to prepare the same way whether they are selling funnel cakes at the local fair or delivering a speech to 500 people. They’re going to clean their house with the same care they would clean a client's house. The standard is the standard.

  • Our Self-Image
    • I think our work is in alignment with who we think we are. We never outwork our perception of ourselves. As our self-image grows, our work will follow.

Work is often a paradox. It can provide strength yet fatigue, insight yet confusion, fulfillment yet struggle. Our relationship with work is an important one. Many of our dreams will be realized, or not, on the simple grounds of work.

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4/7/2022

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Talkers & Doers

You can believe in soap and die dirty. 
As Gandhi shared, “Action expresses priority.”

My dad let me know early on that there were two kinds of people in the world: talkers and doers.
And, I needed to be a doer.

We have a lot of ‘talkers’ in society today. It’s interesting to me that those that talk the most tend to do the least. Talkers have grand plans and solutions to any number of problems, but often lack the initiative to actually do anything. They are critics. Talkers are quick to point out what a doer did wrong or could have done differently, but slow to actually pick up the hammer and swing it.

Why, you might ask? That’s a pretty easy one.
When we avoid action we think we are avoiding failure. Talking about all the things that could, or should, be done is easy. The solutions abound and the answers are clear when all we do is talk. If we don’t bet, we can’t lose. 

In a weird way, I feel sorry for the Talkers. They think their opinions matter. They fully believe their words of wisdom make a difference. Yet, we know they don’t. We learn quickly that the doers are the ones to listen to. They’re the ones with the actual experience to provide good counsel. Talkers speak as if failure isn’t a possibility. Doers have confronted failure head on and are fully prepared for the next round of it, which they know is coming.

Why Should We Care?
This isn’t about prudence. I’m all for gathering information, asking for advice from those we trust, and making the best decisions possible. It is about decisiveness.

As a leader, this is a dangerous trap. We can easily drift into a Talker if we aren’t mindful of the risk. We may even slip into the belief that we are doing because we are completing checklists and staying busy. Busy does not equate to doing. 

One of the biggest challenges for leaders is staying connected to the daily responsibilities of the people we are leading. Disconnection in this area is not only common, it’s often desired. Some leaders like the distance. The corner office with the great view isn’t nearly as helpful as a genuine understanding of what the people you lead experience day to day. We are best served to stay, or at least revisit, the trenches often.

It’s important that leaders do, not just talk.

REAL TALK - Action Steps
Doers follow a simple three step process.

  • They Start
    • This seems simple, but is unquestionably the biggest hurdle most people face. After all, if you don’t start, you can’t finish. Doers don’t waste time. They’re decisive in their decisions, persistent in their action, and positive in their mindset. Doers would rather start and figure it out than talk about it and wonder how.
 
  • They Strain
    • Shocking, I know. Things aren’t easy and doers are ok with that. They actually welcome it, realizing that it’s the strain that is the source of fulfillment and achieving anything worthwhile. They lean into discomfort. Doers seem to be the people that find a way, not an excuse.
 
  • They Finish
    • Doers persevere. They persist until the job is done. It’s precisely what makes them who they are. A Doer wouldn’t even consider stopping before the job is complete. They wonder why you would start if you’re not going to finish.

There are so many people that talk in future tense, about what they are going to do. Action lives in the present. There is nothing wrong with talking about what you are going to do, just be sure your actions follow suit. Your integrity depends on it.

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3/31/2022

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Our Opinions

Have you ever noticed that the people demanding their opinion be heard are the last peoples’ opinion you want to hear? 

Why is that? 
I have a few ideas … want to hear my opinion? I knew you did.

The Dunning-Kruger effect is a thing, and it’s real. If you’re unfamiliar with the Dunning-Kruger effect, it is a cognitive bias in which people believe they are smarter and more capable than they really are.

Basically, we are not smart enough to realize how not smart we are.
And, I definitely use ‘we’ intentionally.

I catch myself far too often listening to a conversation, just waiting for an opportunity to save the day with my one-of-a-kind wisdom. Once they hear what I have to say, the seas will part, the drawbridge will lift and all will be good. 

So what is it that drives: 1. Our overestimate of our knowledge and capabilities, and 2. Our desire to share our opinion regardless of our true knowledge of the circumstances?

Why Should We Care?
Knowing what we know about ourselves and what we’ve been through, it seems pretty natural that we would give significant weight to our personal experiences. They impacted us and played a large part in making us who we are. Why wouldn’t we think they are important. If they mattered to us, why wouldn’t they matter to you?

You’ve heard of YouTube, right? It’s pretty clear if you watch a YouTube video on changing the oil in your car, BOOM - you’re a mechanic. If you watch a video on a new baseball drill, BOOM - you’re a coach.

That is until we realize we don’t know anything. Unfortunately, the realization of our lack of knowledge is well behind our proclamation of expertise. For most, time will bring understanding. For the others, get used to ignoring them.

REAL TALK - Action Steps
Here are a few ideas that may help you work through the opinion biases you face.

  • Ask & You Shall Receive 
    • Keep your opinions to yourself unless someone asks you for them. Mere struggle does not require immediate action on your part. Struggle is okay, good actually. Give people the space to sit in that struggle if they choose. It’s hard to realize at the moment, but this is often the best thing for them.

  • Suggest, Don’t Tell
    • Say things like, ‘I’m not sure but this worked for me’ rather than speaking in absolutes. By providing suggestions and options, we encourage the other person to consider your opinion rather than proclaim your way is the only way. Regardless of your conviction level, your opinion is still just your opinion and may not provide the best solution for someone else. 

  • Stop Listening
    • You have a choice of whether or not to give someone else a voice in your decision making. Guard it closely. And, my suggestion, is to immediately tune out someone that demands your attention. There is no clearer sign of the Dunning-Kruger effect in practice.

We are all certainly entitled to an opinion. However, we do not have the right to make other people listen to it. As a leader, it’s critical we recognize our tendency to view our opinions as more factual than they are. Afterall, self-awareness is a superpower.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
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