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7/29/2021

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We > Me

I think Daniel Coyle said it as well as it could be said in his book The Culture Code. His introduction is titled, “When two plus two equals ten”. This is exactly what happens on great teams. The performance of the team defies logic. We are trained to look at the pieces, add them up, and it should equate to the sum of the parts. But, for teams, that is rarely the case.

On some teams, two plus two might equal ten. On other teams, ten plus ten might equal two. And, sure, sometimes two plus two will equal four. The point is, there is something else at play that significantly impacts the performance of your team beyond the talent the team possesses.

Why Should We Care?
Every leader wants their team to overachieve, perform at a level beyond what their talent should dictate. As leaders, our ability to consistently draw this from our teams is the essence of coaching. It should be the gauge used for awards such as coach or manager of the year. However, like most everything else in society, those are more often given to the team that wins the most or the branch with the highest earnings - with no regard to the team’s performance relative to their potential.

There are a few things teams that consistently outperform their talent always seem to have:
  • Humble Stars - the best, most talented, team members are not seeking praise or recognition. They embrace their role as the best player while maintaining humility within that role. Of course they work hard and are good teammates, that goes without saying, but they also deflect praise to teammates while taking on more than their share of the blame for mistakes. They get that it’s not about them, even when those outside the team try to make it about them.
  • All In Role Players - everyone has a role and every role is important. Even the star player has a role - one that may seem appealing until you realize the responsibility that goes with it. But, each role is critical to the performance of the team. On teams that outperform their talent, each team member genuinely feels a responsibility to the rest of the group to bring their best to the team each day. 
  • Focus on Us - on these teams, I matter … but we matter more. A shared mission is powerful. And, on these teams, everyone is invested in the group ahead of themselves. It’s viewed from outside the team as sacrifice, as losing part of yourself for the team. From within the team, it’s the complete opposite. By choosing the team over yourself you are now enhancing, expanding your impact on the group. You are finding the groove that allows you to give the absolute most to something bigger than yourself.

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This is really the essence of coaching. How to get the most out of your team. Sometimes things work out that way for us and sometimes we fail in our attempt to get the best out of them. Nonetheless, this is the goal for all leaders. Here are a few things that I think enhance your chances of tapping into that unseen potential.

  • Vulnerability 
    • Make being vulnerable the norm. It starts with the leader. Ask for critical feedback, then listen to it. Open up about your personal life and what is good or bad, what you’re dealing with. Make yourself available to listen to team members. Admit mistakes, apologize when it is (and isn’t) your fault. Nothing on a team is more important than the willingness of team members to be vulnerable around each other. I have never seen a team maximize their potential that did have abnormal comfort with vulnerability throughout the team.

  • Trust
    • Trust flows from vulnerability. When we see team members taking down their armor and opening up, trust usually follows and we begin to reciprocate the vulnerability that’s been afforded to us … and so trust grows. The foundation for all teams is trust. There are on exceptions. The entire purpose of vulnerability is to build trust. It’s not something that just happens. We must intentionally create an environment in which trust can flourish. Teams that overachieve emanate trust.

  • Repeat Consistently
    • It’s never over, never complete. As leaders, we can not tire of the process or ever begin to feel that our team has made it. Consistency is critical.

It’s not for everyone. There are a lot of reasons there aren’t a lot of great teams out there. This is one of them. Being on a team that overachieves is tough … and you can’t be tough alone.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
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BCG Blog

7/22/2021

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Unified: Speak & Act with Urgency

Most would agree that teams need to be unified to be successful. However, what unified means to you may not align with the rest of your team. It’s not enough to say we want to be unified, work together, or have great teamwork. All teams say this. 

If you want to be different, you need to articulate what each of your values looks like in action. The behavior that makes your value ‘real’ is the juice that runs your culture. 

Why Should We Care?
Unified is one of my, and our team’s, core values. In the process of uncovering this value I reflected on all of the great experiences I’ve had on various teams. I thought about team accomplishments and failures along with my personal achievements and shortcomings. One of the things that stood out to me throughout my reflections was how much better I was on a team.

The stronger, more connected, the team the better I enjoyed it, and the better I performed.

This led to a few questions: 
What does a unified team look like? 
How do they act? 
What do they do?

Of course, teams that work together do a lot of things. They show up, they talk, they share, they take action, they are unselfish, and many more … all of these are important. They all matter.

Here’s the deal with your values though. Everything can’t be of the same importance. If so, you end up with some watered down version of the culture you aspire to have that is a little bit of everything and a lot of nothing. As Lencioni puts it, “If everything is important, then nothing is.”

A unified team is urgent. They realize the importance of every moment and are unwilling to waste any of them. Unified teams are willing to speak up when behaviors don’t match the expected standards. They call out hurtful or unproductive actions for the good of the team. Unified teams are comprised of individuals who realize that  ignoring damaging behaviors is selfish. When doing so, they are choosing their comfort over the good of the team. Choosing to avoid the discomfort of confronting teammates is not unified. The best teams I have been on, not only speak with urgency, but they also take action. They’re compelled to improve and do not hesitate or delay in doing so.

For me, being unified is speaking and acting with urgency.

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Here are a few ideas on bringing a core value of unified to action. You’ll have to come up with the equivalent to your team .. good luck!

  • Pass the Ball 
    • In an age of isolation, in basketball and life, passing the ball has become rare. The pass is the greatest sign of a unified team. Each pass is a vote of confidence to a teammate. It’s a selfless act that communicates value and importance to the receiver. And a reluctance to pass demonstrates the exact opposite. 

  • Take the Charge
    • A charge in basketball occurs when a defensive player anticipates the path of an offensive player, steps in this path, and sacrifices his body for the good of his team. I’ve never coached a player that is willing to take charges that is not unified. Likewise, a refusal to take a charge is almost always a sign of 

  • Set a Screen
    • A screen is when an offensive player positions himself in front of an opponent in an attempt to help free a teammate for an offensive opportunity. Unified teammates will sacrifice themselves for the good of the team, without hesitation. They willingly, and urgently, choose to serve each other. 

Speaking and acting with urgency is the essence of being unified on our team. When the situation and time requires it, the willingness to say the hard stuff is critical. It’s the time our unity is called into question. Be ready. Don’t flinch. 

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
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BCG Blog

7/15/2021

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Hold Fast & Stay True

Society likes to pull us in all different directions. It has a special knack for making us feel like we need to be something we’re not, sometimes anything we’re not. If we’re into maximizing ourselves and becoming the best version of ourselves we can be, we’ll commit to reflection and growing our self-awareness. We’ll wrestle with our previous setbacks and mistakes in order to improve, then make the adjustments to our lives that increase our chances of being better in the future. And, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. 

We gather all of this feedback from those around us, society. Too often, this audience gives us poor advice. They tell us we need to compete like this person over here or serve our community like this person over here. The comparisons never stop. We always have someone new that we’re supposed to be like.

Here’s the deal though. The world doesn’t need anymore people pretending, or trying, to be LeBron James or Mother Theresa - or anyone for that matter. What it needs is real, authentic people that know who they are and what they stand for - and then actually stand for it.

Why Should We Care?
There are thousands of personal values that may be important to you. Well, guess what. You can’t be all of them. You have to pick what is most important to you. That’s the way life works. At Least for those aspiring to excellence. 

I suppose if you are willing to fluctuate and adjust your behavior, decisions, and values with each encounter then you may be able to touch on a large number of them. As a matter of fact, that’s exactly how most people go about their lives. And, it’s certainly possible to live a ‘good’ life this way. In my opinion, it’s the impact on others that is missing. 

By carefully choosing our values, we are telling others what is important to us. By limiting them to only a few, we increase the significance of each. As Pat Lencioni pointed out, “if everything is important, then nothing is.”

The fun, easy part of the process is discovering your values. The challenging part is living them … every single day, in every single interaction, and through every single adversity. 

Holding fast and staying true is the real challenge.

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So, how do we do it? How do we hold fast to our values when things are really good or really bad - both are equally as challenging? How do we stay true to the person we have said we want to be? I wish I had an easy answer for you, but the truth is it’s hard. And, is exactly why it’s the path less traveled.

  •  Create a Failure Recovery System
    • Find a way to reset. When things aren’t going well or you feel yourself drifting away from your values, create a physical action or verbal cue to bring yourself back to the mindset that best serves you. It’s important to specifically lay out and plan this ahead of time in order for it to truly reset your mind.

  • Mind your Square Squad
    • Your Square Squad is the group of people that are in your corner, no matter what. They like and support you for who you are, not what you do. They are always there for you when you need them, and most importantly, they will tell you the truth. The Square Squad is no place for yes-men. You need truth tellers in your Square Squad - people that will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

  • Avoid Resulting
    • Resulting is when we concern ourselves only with the outcome of a situation. This typically gives very little feedback on what really happened. When we reflect, we need to be certain to assess our success based on our fulfillment of our core values, not the desired outcome. 

Here’s the thing … we’re going to make mistakes. We’re going to mess this up. The key? Pick up the axe, stand up next to the tree, and swing again and again and again. Just keep choppin! That’s how you hold fast and stay true.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
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BCG Blog

7/8/2021

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The Two Sides of Competition

The willingness and desire to compete is a necessity in the pursuit of excellence. Competition is a driving force for many people, and can be an extremely positive motivator. However, there are two sides to competition. The side we operate from is based on our purpose and will determine whether we are pursuing excellence or success.

I need to take a moment to define excellence and success:
Excellence - the pursuit of your personal best
Success - your superiority over someone else based on your comparison with them

Notice excellence is NOT your personal best, it’s the pursuit of your personal best. The pursuit is where excellence is. Also notice, success is not process based. It’s outcome, successful or not successful, is based on who you are comparing yourself to.

Why Should We Care?
The side of competition we are most familiar with, and surrounded by in society, is that of external comparison. The purpose of this side of competition is to win. That’s the measuring stick and how we decide if we are successful or not. Win the game, sell more than my associate, maximize the deal … that’s what winning a competition looks like. 

This is how much of society is structured and how most people live their lives. The competition is the motivating factor to measure up, prove your worth, or demonstrate your superiority. The comparison gives you immediate feedback on the competition.

The other side of competition which is less familiar to us, and is uncommon in society, is that of internal comparison. This side of competition is constantly pulling at the question: did I improve? Basing our assessment of success on this gauge pushes us down the path of excellence. Win? Great, what did I learn? Finish third in sales this month? Great, what did I learn? 

The constant reflection and focus on growth is contrary to the finality of external comparison. At the root it centers on the process, rather than the result. There is no self-worth tied to results or superiority to be claimed. With internal comparison you are only competing with yourself.

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Coaches and bosses love team members that are willing competitors. However, there is a difference between the two that must be acknowledged and honored. While the external competitor can often achieve high levels of success, excellence is reserved strictly for the internal competitors. Here are a few thoughts on growing the ability to grow your internal competitor.

  • Detach from man’s approval 
    • I heard the phrase several years ago and don’t remember where I stole it now, but what a great way to view it. Approval of others will lead you directly to the search for favorable comparisons. I mean, if we look, we can always find someone less pretty, less talented, less accomplished. Seeking man’s approval is the quickest way to stray from excellence and begin down the winding trail of success searching.

  • Run your race
    • Along the same lines, we need to accept where we are. You’re not where you want to be but you’re not where you used to be either. Your timeline is different from your teammate’s timeline. That’s ok. There is nothing wrong with that. It’s exactly how it should be. Stay loyal to the process, dispel comparison. 

  • Make no excuses
    • Excuses are reserved for non-competitors. Those chasing success look for excuses when the results aren’t what they want them to be or the results don’t make them look as good as they would like. True competitors don’t shy away from their failures and shortcomings because they know they will be better for it. That result doesn’t define them, so why make an excuse to relieve yourself from it? All you are actually doing is lessening the potential positive impact it could have.

I love competitors. There is a pureness to what they bring to a team. They go for it despite the fear of the unknown. They don’t hold back. Ever. Competitors don’t always win, but they are always moving towards excellence.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
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BCG Blog

7/1/2021

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Envy the Enemy

According to my quick Google search, envy is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck. It’s a desire to have something that someone else has. We know it’s not good. We know we shouldn’t do it. But, man, is it hard to guard against. 

Our hair, teeth, height, and weight … our car, house, shoes, and clothes … our education, job, income, and profession are just a few potential areas where envy may surface. It’s literally everywhere. And, there’s no escaping it, especially in leadership.

Why Should We Care?
As a leader, envy blinds us to what we DO have. In a constant desire to have the opportunities, resources, and compensation of others we begin to become ungrateful for our own situation. As we focus on what’s missing from our leadership journey, we miss golden chances to impact the people we are leading.

Envy is one of the most common ways to avoid remaining present. As we daydream about how things could be, what others have, and the future we want we are neglecting where we are right now. Envy robs us of our appreciation for the present. It’s not possible to be grateful and envious at the same time. 

Some attempt to use envy as a motivator to funnel their energy and passion towards something they hope to attain. They try to pass it off as fuel towards a goal, which may provide significant motivation for a time. However, it can never provide the motivation necessary to accomplish any worthwhile goal. 

The pursuits we value the most will be challenging and take a significant amount of time to accomplish. Our purpose must be driven by our own desire to contribute to others, not our pursuit of what someone else has. 

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Fighting envy is not easy. It’s everywhere, and no amount of previous accomplishment or success makes it go away. Many people are accustomed to looking outside of themselves for answers and guidance, but fighting envy is a strictly internal struggle.

  • Define YOUR success 
    • It seems like I note this concept every few posts, but it is truly that critical. How we choose to define success as a leader, parent, spouse, or friend will guide our feelings of accomplishment or failure. Focusing our success on processes that we control rather than accomplishments and benchmarks that we can’t is a critical distinction.

  • Share YOUR gratitude
    • Be grateful and share it. Tell people and write it down in your journal. The expression of gratitude is one of the best things you can do for others and yourself. The more we share our gratitude, the more things we realize there are to be grateful for. Gratitude and envy cannot coexist. 

  • Be YOURself
    • Accepting your differences and talents as your unique gifts is a significant step in keeping envy at bay. Many things pull you in different ways but it’s your commitment to being yourself that matters. As a leader people are not drawn to charismatic, powerful, or charming; they’re drawn to authenticity.

Envy has the potential, and desire, to poison all parts of our lives. Be grateful for where you are, what you have, and who you are. This is the best medicine for envy.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
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