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4/24/2025

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What Details Matter?

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Is how you do anything really how you do everything?

The message from the text of a former player is clear: this is NOT what we do. It’s 9pm on a random Thursday night in April and I receive a video from one of our former players who happened to be in the gym working out. The video scans our locker room showing various items laying on the floor - a cardinal sin in our program. 

The video was followed with a series of messages:
  • You would’ve had us doing 100 burpees for each thing left
  • And, we wouldn’t have been allowed to wear Centerville gear for a week
  • Cleaned up the floors in there; couldn’t leave it lookin’ like that
  • Not trying to get the youngins in trouble, but we win championships around here

The message came from one of our “guys” - a ten year member of our program, who worked his way to the top, who earned his influence and impact with the way he showed up every day, who made one of the biggest shots in the history of our school, and … is a state champion. The coolest part: he’s been out of high school for three years and he still cares.

Our locker room is a sacred space - he knows this. Not only for the experience and relationships forged inside those four walls, but for what the room itself represents. He knows that room was given to him by the guys before him. It’s not something he, or anyone on the current team, earned. The guys that came before him played and carried themselves in such a way that someone wanted to donate money to build the locker room for them. They’re reaping the rewards for work they didn’t do.

That calls for gratitude … for being thankful. And, how do you show you’re thankful for something? That’s right - you take care of it. You handle things like a prized possession you own, not a cheap commodity you rent. You pick up trash, whether it’s yours or not. You keep your area clean out of respect for your teammates and the guys that came before you. 

A simple, yet profound, observation is the connection between the attention to details on the court and the attention to details in the locker room. Sloppy locker rooms almost always translate to sloppy focus and play on the court. Our ‘guy’ knows this well. He believes it fully. So much so, that he wants those coming after him to gain the same appreciation.

The correlation between details and results occurs so often, coincidence can be ruled out. A more appropriate question would be - is anything a detail?

Insight Trifecta
Below are three questions that dive deeper into the topic at hand. My responses are included. I hope they will generate some thought and prompt you to take the time to explore your responses to each as well.

  • How do you balance focusing on details versus seeing the big picture?
    • You first need to decide that details matter and serve as the building blocks to the big picture you are aspiring to. The first doesn’t guarantee the second, but an absence of the first completely eliminates any chance for the latter. Once this mindset is established, then it’s a matter of prioritization. The key for any leader is identifying the 20% of the details that lead to 80% of the results. The best are very good at this. The average get off in the weeds and are usually focused on the wrong 20%. They fail to keep the main thing the main thing. 
        
I will add, from a conceptual framework, focusing on details and seeing the big picture are both critical. They must be merged rather than approached individually. The best I’ve been around have made a focus on details an integral part of the big picture … and the big picture a daily touch point.

  • Where is the line between helpful precision and counterproductive perfectionism?
    • Perfectionism is debilitating. It causes people to play it too safe in an effort to avoid failure. Everyone knows we succeed by failing. Everyone. For me, the key to this distinction is operating with a ‘Scientist Mindset’. This means approaching virtually everything as an experiment. This removes the finality that perfectionism desires. When conducting an experiment a scientist would make every effort to achieve the desired result. However, following the experiment the scientist will explore the results with determined curiosity in order to make the next experiment better. If I’m focused on perfection, frustration and anger will likely drown out my wonder.

        Do the best you can in the moment. When you can do better … do that.

  • In what ways does your detail orientation build or diminish trust with your team?
    • Competence is sometimes an under appreciated form of trust building. We can show up everyday, keep our word, share vulnerability, laugh together, cry together, suffer together - but if we don’t know what we’re doing the people we are leading are not going to trust us. I might be a great friend, but I’m a lousy leader. Our attention to detail as a leader is one of the first indicators that we are capable to lead. Most followers are going to be slower to commit and be vulnerable than they are to acknowledge competence. A lack of detail is an immediate red flag for team members. At that point, trust is all but impossible to restore.

An investment in the details, and their connection to the big picture, is viewed by people as an investment in them. Without them a leader is viewed as incapable of helping them reach their goals. 

Question to Carry
A final question for you to consider over the next week:
How does my attention to detail shape both what my team focuses on and what they might be overlooking?

Detailed people tend to be detailed. Lazy people tend to be lazy. I wouldn’t say it’s a guarantee, but it’s not far from it. What we do matters - even the things that we don’t think do.

Checkout Surrender the Outcome on Amazon and order The Score That Matters with Ryan Hawk & Brook Cupps. The latest blog from Blue Collar Grit can be found here!
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4/17/2025

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The YoYo Life

The season is off to a great start. We’ve competed at a high level in every one of our games so far. The guys really seem to be getting it. They’re sharing the ball, executing the game plan, and defending on every possession. It’s such a fun group to coach.

Two days later …

We’re awful. We have no idea what truly competing even looks like, let alone possess the ability to actually do it. Just about every guy on the team is indifferent, terrible at basketball, or both. We have no passion for anything. The season can’t get over quick enough.

OK, I think we can all agree that we spend the majority of our time somewhere in between. However, for most of us, our perspective, attitude, and emotions fluctuate so much it’s really hard to maintain a consistently accurate view point. We’re distracted by any number of things, few of which we can do anything about.

More often than not, life resembles a reasonably calm sea with a few waves from time to time. Some are bigger than others and sometimes we have a bunch of them in a row. The waves are unavoidable, but the vessel and the way we navigate is a clear choice.

Unfortunately, we typically fail to realize the choice before us or operate with the intentionality to allow our choices to steady our boat. We’re left with simply dealing with them instead.

Such is the YoYo Life.

Why Should We Care?
An anchor would be helpful. Anchors serve to hold a boat’s location, to prevent it from drifting. We need to minimize our drifting.

That’s what happens to us as leaders, isn’t it - we drift? From year to year, month to month, day to day … heck, hour to hour; we drift. What we establish with good intentions as the priority at the start of the project on Monday is all but forgotten by the time we wade through all the bureaucracy and personal challenges and get to Friday. 

We don’t mean for it to happen - we don’t want to drift. It’s more a matter of us not knowing how to recognize that we’re doing it or how to stop it when we do. By the time we know we need to drop the anchor we’re so far from where we want to be that it’s too late. 

Of course, the next question we have to answer is: what is our anchor?

REAL TALK - Action Steps
The good news is we have no shortage of options for potential anchors and the world has all but exhausted all of them at this point. Some, of course, are better than others. A lot of the anchors will keep you from drifting in shallow water, but if you’re going to be venturing into the depths of leadership you’re going to need a stronger anchor than most. Here are a few of the most common anchors I’ve noticed people choose to drop:

  • Yourself 
    • Know thyself. It’s a noble claim with powerful implications. Self-awareness is one of the most attractive and impactful qualities of anyone, leaders included. Reflection and contemplation provide great insights into leading ourselves and others. Can you, alone, stand the roughest seas? For me, the biggest waves always seem to force me to call on something beyond myself. I’m never tough enough alone.

  • Others
    • Many choose others as their anchors - children, parents, friends, idols. There are a lot of admirable people in the world who set a standard that consistently lifts us to new heights. However, as we explore their ability to navigate rough waters we realize most are no more stable than we are. It seems we all may be sufficiently flawed.

  • Your Faith
    • All religions are tied to something bigger than one’s self. This is the overarching power of faith - it’s not us or our neighbors. The foundation is firm. The size of the waves may make us question it but as water clears our faith emerges..

A solid foundation is what we are all looking for - to lead and live. Who or what is that for you? 
We all need an anchor. Some are far stronger than others..

Checkout Surrender the Outcome on Amazon and order The Score That Matters with Ryan Hawk & Brook Cupps. The latest blog from Blue Collar Grit can be found here!
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4/10/2025

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The Race to Saturday

My alarm pulls me from my slumber. I jump out of bed, eager to see what the week holds. Mondays offer opportunities. I look forward to the unknowns of the week ahead. Uncomfortable, yet exciting, with something to discover. I know I’m going to struggle and stretch myself. Those first few years of teaching are as exciting as they are scary.

My alarm drags me from my temporary coma. I slink out of bed, creeping into another week. Mondays are the beginning of the end. All I see is the monotonous repetition of the daily grind - same day, different week. I’m trapped in a recurring cycle of senseless routines that add value to no one. The next few years of teaching are merely a race to the weekend. 

My alarm jolts me from my sleep. I spring out of bed, ready to attack the week ahead. Mondays are another day to make a difference. Each of those precious days holds its own opportunity to serve and impact the people around me. I’m present and intentional, giving and grateful. The rest of my years teaching, and doing anything else I choose, are simply a platform for me to live out my purpose. It’s a ministry, not a job.

What a work-life cycle! 
Grateful to not be counted among the lucky few who get stuck in that dreadful middle stage.

Why Should We Care?
How many people do you know who spend the week working their job so they can do what really matters to them on the weekends? They repeatedly sacrifice the one hundred-twenty weekly hours for the measly forty-eight the weekend offers. Living forty percent of life doesn’t sound like that great of a proposition to me.

Too many miss out on the meaning and direction an overriding purpose can provide. Most of us begin exploring our purpose out of desperation, when we realize everything we’ve done and accomplished is basically useless. In this moment we realize we know everything about life except how to live it. 

Make no mistake, it is a strong purpose that offers us full access to those one hundred-twenty weekday hours. Without it we remain prisoners to the weekend. With too small or vague of a purpose we end up being driven by someone else’s mission. We need nothing more than something to bring life together and provide focus for our daily actions.

Our purpose is a matter of the soul, not the mind, and a confused soul offers no guidance. When everything goes sideways only what’s in the soul will count. When the monotony and trivial headaches of worklife surface, the soul is the only thing that can find meaningful purpose on a daily basis.

REAL TALK - Action Steps
All days are meant to be lived. All jobs are meant to matter. All roles are meant to impact. With the right purpose we can maximize all aspects of our life, every day. Here are a few questions to consider in identifying just the right purpose:

  • Which of your strengths creates the most meaningful impact when you share it with others? 
    • We’re so good at magnifying our weaknesses, but in order to identify our most meaningful purpose we need to capitalize on our strengths. Self-awareness is required, as well as the humility to acknowledge our impact on others.

  • When have you thought 'someone should do something about this' and felt personally called to be that someone?
    • It could’ve happened in elementary school on the playground or maybe something went down at lunch during your first few years of work. We are all the collection of our life experiences. Those experiences create beliefs that drive our mindset and accompanying actions. 

  • When you're 90, looking back at your life, what impact would make you think, 'Yes, that's exactly what I was here to do'?
    • Reverse-engineering may be one of the best life hacks out there. Answer this question then set out to do that while applying it to all aspects of your life..

Weekends are great. But, when we’re living in line with our purpose, so are weekdays. All offer the same opportunity when viewed through the proper lens.

Checkout Surrender the Outcome on Amazon and order The Score That Matters with Ryan Hawk & Brook Cupps. The latest blog from Blue Collar Grit can be found here!
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4/3/2025

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When Your What's Your Why

Ten years into my coaching career was the first time it even crossed my mind. 

The room is about three-fourths full. Most have notebooks open on the table in front of them. A few stand, leaning against the wall ready to make a quick escape if the message isn’t worth hearing. At the front of the room, I sit at a small desk taking one final look at my notes. I brush off some natural nerves that anyone speaking in front of their peers experiences and stand as the MC approaches the microphone to introduce me.

He begins with my career record followed by a few accolades. No one in the room cares. But, for whatever the reason, the introduction registers with me. It generates a simple, but profound question that I continue to wrestle with from time to time, even now:

Is that really who I am - a series of numbers and meaningless awards?

If I were to be honest at the time, the answer was definitely yes. My identity was absolutely tied to my coaching performance. Unfortunately, the introduction suited me perfectly.

My ‘what’ was clearly my ‘why’.

Why Should We Care?
I realize now that I’m not the only one that has suffered from this skewed perspective. Almost everyone experiences it and virtually every leader must choose to intentionally fight it.

When we are dedicated to our craft we often never even consider the hours we put into it. For most, it’s not even work … it’s who we are (ope!). Of course, sometimes the dedication itself becomes our identity. Our purpose may be nothing more than being viewed as a hard worker.

All high performing people value achievement. As the leader, production is naturally important. The extent to which we prioritize the results provides a clear window as to the location of our ‘why’. It’s often easy for a performance-driven leader to become enamored with the label of leader.

When we are living in-line with our why, what we are doing almost becomes irrelevant. At our best, our why can be applied to all aspects of our lives. The ‘how’ becomes the differentiating factor. The process and experiences are elevated. The results and outcomes are surrendered, yet often surpass even our own expectations.

Unfortunately, when we aren’t living in-line with our why, what we are doing becomes irrelevant also. We may be well-known (for a while) or achieve great things (to soon be forgotten), but the resulting emptiness we are destined to feel will lead to questions we desperately wish we would’ve answered years earlier.

When your ‘what’ is your ‘why’, you are a far cry from the success you are looking for.

REAL TALK - Action Steps
This isn’t a box to check and move on. Being sure your ‘what’ is not your ‘why’ requires a high level of self-awareness and intentionality. Not to mention continuous work. Here are few thoughts on consistently re-evaluating your intent:

  • Get Quiet
    • Stop talking. Stop listening to music and podcasts. Stop asking for other people’s advice and opinions. Enjoy and appreciate your thoughts. Most of us never step away from the noise to actually hear our own voice. How are we supposed to know what we think if we never listen to ourselves?

  • Examine Failures
    • Failure offers so many opportunities to learn but we would prefer to dismiss them and avoid encountering the pain again. Putting them behind us and moving on can help at times, but more often than not the clues left by the failure are indicators of a flawed process … which can be an indicator or a misplaced ‘why’.

  • Find Joy
    • Do other things that you enjoy and pay close attention to exactly what it is that brings you joy from those things. You can reflect on it now. What is it about your hobbies that you love? What brings you back to them time after time? Your ‘why’ is likely tucked away in there somewhere.

When your ‘what’ is your ‘why’ your impact is compromised, but more importantly so is your self-worth. You are more than what you do as long as you choose to make it so.

Checkout Surrender the Outcome on Amazon and order The Score That Matters with Ryan Hawk & Brook Cupps. The latest blog from Blue Collar Grit can be found here!

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