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9/22/2022

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It's Not About You

Contrary to our intuition, others don’t see the world the same way that we do. They have different experiences that have formed different beliefs. This is as it should be. 

Also contrary to our intuition, others don’t need to agree with us. Differing opinions provide different perspectives. This variety is the strength of the team, not a weakness.

However, in order to appreciate this mindset, we have to remember the most important rule for any team: It’s not about you.

If it’s about you, then it can’t be about the team. 
If it’s about the team, then it can’t be about you.

Why Should We Care?
Accepting, that’s right accepting, a position on a team is a significant decision one should give serious consideration. And, most don’t.

By agreeing to become a member of a team, we are agreeing to surrender ourselves to the team. You can have goals, the team’s just have to be more important. 

The same applies to the ego. Our ego must be secondary to that of the team also. Elite teams have a collective confidence, belief that precedes them. It is driven by the individual egos on the team, but is collectively much greater than the sum of the individual parts.

In a 1994 playoff game versus the New York Knicks, all-star Chicago Bulls player Scottie Pippen refused to go into the game when Coach Phil Jackson drew up the final, game-winning play, for Toni Kukoc instead of Pippen. Kukoc made the shot to win the game and Pippen went directly to the locker room rather than celebrating with his team. Clearly, in Pippen’s mind, it was about him, not the team - at least in that moment. 

Jackson, a hall of fame coach, handled it exactly as you would expect. He left Pippen on the bench. We should take note and do the same with team members prioritizing themselves over the team.

REAL TALK - Action Steps
Clear situations like the one above aren’t as difficult to identify and respond to as some of the less egregious acts are. Below are a few ways to identify teammates that might think it is, in fact, about them.

  • Individual Success > Team Success 
    • This one is pretty easy. Team members that do not share in the team’s success when their contribution isn’t as significant as they would like are all but waving a red flag. The opposite is also true - neglecting to share in the same suffering when the team fails, but they filled their role well. 

  • My Time > Our Time
    • Team members that are consistently late, or even just pressing the time, are people to keep your eyes on. Often they are trying to whittle their commitment down to the bare minimum. As Gandhi states, “Action expresses priority.” Team members that have surrendered to the group will prioritize the time with the team.

  • I > We
    • Pay close attention to the words team members use when talking about the team. The words they choose in casual conversation gives you valuable insight into exactly what they are thinking about the group. The ‘We’s and Us’’ should greatly outnumber the ‘Me’s and I’s’.

The realization that when you’re on a team, nothing is about you is a humbling one. Consider it practice for other important aspects of your life that will require a similar type of surrendering. Your friends, your family, and your faith to name a few.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
We would love to know how we could help!

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1 Comment
Dan Cunningham
9/29/2022 03:11:53 pm

I have a bright red t-shirt from a wonderful organization called Goruck that screams:

"IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!

When people see it, they are either immediately confused or instantly understand it. I get an immense kick out of gauging the reactions.
I appreciate your insight and another important lesson on leading teams (and parenting young kids). You're the best coach Cupps!

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