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2/23/2023

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Tournament Lent

Each season as we begin tournament play, we have a team meeting designated to something we call ‘tournament lent’. Lent is the religious observance of the 40 days Jesus spent fasting in the desert prior to beginning his public ministry. Lent represents discipline and sacrifice. 

Our tournament lent discussion centers on one question: what are you willing to give up for the team? It’s a central question we all must ask ourselves. The degree to which we are willing to sacrifice determines our commitment level to anything. Spoken, or unspoken, everyone within our team knows what they are, and are not, willing to sacrifice.

In anything we do, we are always limited by one thing: what we are willing to sacrifice. It’s not what we want, not what we dream about, and not even what we work for that we accomplish. It’s always a matter of what we are willing to give up.

Sometimes it’s our time. Sometimes it’s our money. Sometimes it’s our ego.
But, rest assured nothing is free. Nothing.

Why Should We Care?
What our players are willing to give up is always telling to the commitment level of the group. This year, one of our seniors went first and gave up his cell phone for the time we are in the tournament which could be up to a month. He cited all the time he wastes on his phone scrolling and how distracting that is. He talked about his desire to be more present with his teammates and how much he cherishes the time they have remaining together. He wants to use his newly claimed time to watch more film, prepare for games, and interact with his family and team.

Clearly, his commitment is strong.

The level of this commitment does not go unnoticed by teammates. Whether we realize it or not, we are constantly communicating our commitment to the team through the sacrifices we are willing to make. This is precisely why tardiness or absences are so damaging to a team. It’s not because of the lack of attendance, it’s the message that what we are doing isn’t really that important. I’m not willing to sacrifice my time for our time.

As much as this applies to our teams, it’s just as applicable to us as individuals. We make commitments to ourselves all the time that we break. Each time we compromise our word to ourselves we are selling our own stock. 

The sacrifices we choose to make in our lives are clear indications of our priorities. They are much more telling than what we dream of or even say. Each day we make choices in which we are prioritizing one thing over another. We think we are choosing what we want, but it’s more accurate to think of it as choosing what we are willing to do without. 


REAL TALK - Action Steps
The idea behind tournament lent is to allow our guys to re-evaluate their commitment to our season then pledge to sacrifice something they enjoy to symbolize their commitment. It’s not perfect, but it does provide several opportunities to better understand the connection between what we want and what we are willing to sacrifice. Here are a few things we try to address each season.

  • Purpose Matters
    • The stronger our purpose, the more willing we are to make significant sacrifices. Our purpose drives everything we do. Giving up candy bars because we want to lose a few pounds will likely depend on our mood and opportunities. Giving up candy bars in order to lose weight so we can give a kidney to one of our children will be a sacrifice we refuse to fluctuate from. The power of the purpose dictates the willingness of our sacrifices.

  • Commitment Matters
    • Our sacrifices are most closely connected to our commitment level. Consider this when we make any commitment. What are we willing to give up? Is it really worth what we will have to sacrifice? And remember, our teammates are always evaluating our commitment based on these actions. Small sacrifice, small commitment.

  • Discipline Matters
    • It’s one thing to commit to giving up something that we enjoy or are used to having or doing. It’s a completely different thing to consistently, and intentionally, remove it from our lives. If we make the commitment we must have the discipline to follow through on it. The only thing more damaging to our team, or ourselves, than not committing is to make a commitment and lack the discipline to stick to it.

Tournament lent is our way of highlighting the connection between what we want and what we are willing to sacrifice for. The reality is that we don’t get what we want. We get what we are willing to sacrifice for - nothing more and nothing less.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
We would love to know how we could help!

1 Comment
Dan Cunningham
3/6/2023 04:14:02 pm

Thank you once again for sharing another powerful lesson for cultivating individual growth AND stronger team commitment. Excellence over success!

Like others, I often I think of Lent as simply a time to "give something up". No real significance. No connection. Just 40 days of skipping a small pleasure like dessert prior to Easter.

I love the idea of tying individual sacrifice, personal self discipline and establishing the conditions for deeper team commitment. This motivates me - instead of giving something up for Lent this year - I'll make a deeper connection like the one you're talking about. I'll commit to reaching out daily to a friend or family member just to see how they're doing.

May this Lenten season bring coach Cupps, his staff and the incredible Centerville Elks basketball team tremendous success!

Thank you

P.S.
The other night, I caught 2 mins of a college basketball game on TV. One of the teams had a former Elk basketball star cheering from the bench. At one point, a teammate of his came out of the game. Not surprisingly, the first and only person up off the bench to give him a high 5 was the former Centerville Elk...

'nuff said!

Let's goooooooooo!

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