blue collar grit
  • Home
  • Who We Serve
    • Individuals
    • Teams
    • Parents
  • Blog
  • Books
  • Contact

bcg blog

3/16/2023

1 Comment

 
Picture

True Competitors

It has nothing to do with the inevitable comparison most want to draw from competition. It has nothing to do with attaining some worthless trophy awarded to the ‘winner’. And, it has nothing to do with who I am competing against. It’s simply a test. And, I love to be tested.

Comparison is for the greedy and ignorant. At one moment it claims superiority over the recent victim, while in the next it realizes time holds for no one. So, the glory of today’s victory is certain to be met with tomorrow’s failure. No more escapable than death itself, comparison is destined to leave us disappointed and insufficient. 
Competition is void of comparison.

The target in competition, for most, has been completely distorted. In part due to the feigned claims to the importance of unselfishness, sportsmanship, and teamwork. We love to hang signs, create campaigns, and sing the praises of those that abide by such tennants yet when the time comes to recognize our best we defer to the easiest metrics -  earnings, salary, or points.
Competition honors what you value.

The competition does not matter. It’s not arrogance. It’s not entitlement. It’s the truth. Competition is about you, and you alone. What you take from competition is your choice. You decide how you respond in the moments of adversity. You choose your response to success and failure. You determine how you will use each aspect of competition to better yourself.
Competition is a personal journey.

Why Should We Care?
The concept of competition has become an ego-driven, self-proclaiming testament to one’s own talents and abilities. Rather than a source of feedback and guidance for improvement, it has become a misguided source of power. In society’s mind it clearly reads, “I’m better than you.” or “You’re better than me.” 

This struggle of superiority isn’t what true competition is about at all. True competition is about the strain, the struggle, and the eventual growth. Notice I said, eventual growth. The concept of delayed gratification has been all but lost in the eyes of modern competition. According to it, we are simply whatever our latest result says we are.

That couldn’t be further from the truth. 
True competition pays homage to the process, not the result. It’s literally ego-less. It doesn’t brag or boast. It just puts its head down and works. When true competitors take a second to look up, it’s not to see where others are but where they, themselves, are. They realize the last result is nothing more than a blip on the screen giving them feedback before the next one. 

Those aspiring to truly compete at their optimal level would be wise to begin considering each  competition as valuable data to prepare them for their next challenge - nothing more, nothing less.

REAL TALK - Action Steps
Competition often boxed into simply sports or business, but true competitors realize they are always competing since the competition is with themselves. Here are a few of the biggest hurdles society clings to that impede true competition.

  • The Highlight Mindset
    • You’re never as good as you think you are. Fortunately, you’re never as bad either. Operating with a highlight mindset places an inordinate amount of satisfaction in the great things you have done, leading to a sense of arrival and entitlement. The confidence may be good at times but is typically received as arrogance, mainly because the day to day work you put it in below par. You don’t value competition because you don’t value growth.

  • The One-Up Mindset
    • You’re in constant competition. The only problem is that it’s with everyone, except yourself. Your identity and value is tied tightly to that comparison. So much so that you are constantly on the look-out for people you are better than in order to soothe your ego and justify your importance. Of course, deep down you know the opposite is also true - if you look, you can easily find people superior to you. As a result, the competitions you partake in are limited to those you are pretty sure you can win.

  • The Louder Mindset
    • In the age of social media, anyone can say whatever they want whenever they want. There needs to be no consideration for others, the louder voice wins. With this mindset you are simply claiming expertise and certainty that simply don’t exist. Of course, no one can tell you that. Hence, you never even get to engage in competition and are never privy to the advantages of it.

True competitors are passionate and growth-minded. They’re free and joyful, humble and devoted. The time of day, venue, opponent, and score are irrelevant. They’re rare, but when you see one - you know it.

For more information on building excellence in your teams, visit us at www.bluecollargrit.com. 
We would love to know how we could help!

​
1 Comment
Dan Cunningham
3/18/2023 12:42:36 pm

Ha! Championship week. And still publishing your best ever. Why am I not surprised! And what a credible (and unique) perspective on competition.

Gonna keep this response short:

Let’s. Go. Elks!!!!!

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Subscribe

    About bc

    I'm a teacher, coach, and parent seeking excellence while defining success on my own terms.

    Archives

    November 2022
    October 2022
    September 2022
    August 2022
    July 2022
    June 2022
    May 2022
    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    January 2022
    December 2021
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020

    Categories

    All

    RSS Feed

  • Home
  • Who We Serve
    • Individuals
    • Teams
    • Parents
  • Blog
  • Books
  • Contact